Pyaar or Zindagi..............

Love is flow of energy in any relation...
Love is not about a boyfriend or a girlfriend..
Love is something about a person with whom u pass on energy and dat energy creates love ....
Pyaar karna ya paana itna aasan nahi hota ..... zindagi to mil jati h par zindagi ko jeena itna aasan nahi hota..
Zindagi mil jaye to Pyaar paane ko taraste hai .....or Pyaar mil jaye zindagi or mangte hain...
Mera manna hai ki ---"Khud se Pyaar kar bande to kismat bhi badal jayegi.."
Aksar maine dekha hai log khud se pareshan rahte hain .. Zindagi k mayne nahi samajh pate hain .. kuch zara sa hua nahi zindagi me ki zindagi bhaari lagti hai unhe ...
Insaan ko sabse pahle apne aap ko janna hoga .. samajhna hoga.. accept karna hoga (vo jaisa bhi hai khud ko accept kare..) ..or pyaar karna hoga.. tabhi vo kisi or ko an payega, samajh payega, ya pyaar kar payega..
Aaj ki bhagti zindagi me kuch karne k liye .. ya apne apne alag alag reasons k liye log khud ko torture karte hain..khud ko pareshan karte hain....or Dusro se Pyaar , Affection , Care sab expect karte hain....
par vo pyaar gar mil bhi gaya to satisfaction to kabhi nahi aata .. unless until U LOVE URSELF.. U CARE FOR URSELF...
Pyaar Zindagi se hai ..or Zindagi Pyaar se ..



Love Unconditional hai... Unbounded hai..
Par aaj k youths pyaar ko conditional or bounded bana dete hain ... chahe fir vo pyaar unke partner k liye ho ya fir unke parents ya guardians k liye ...
Pyaar samne vale ko badal kar use apna banana demand nahi karta .. pyaar demand karta hai ki samne vala jaisa hai use vaise hi pyaar karen.. use vaise hi ACCEPT karen .. varna agar aap badal k pyaar kar rahe ho to vo to aap apne accoprding kisi ko bana rahe ho or fir use pyaar kar rahe ho.. us insaan ka to asli wajood khatam hi ho gaya....
or agar aap kisi se pyaar karte ho or baad me use apne according badalte ho to vo to aapne us insaan ko badal diya..ab vo vo nahi raha jisse aapne pahle pyaar kiya tha... "One should accept the person as he/she is in his/her real lyf.."

Sometyms people change themselves in order that their partner or belover love them ...Coz they have Fear Of Rejection in themselves..
they feel that agar mai aisi hun the other person will not love me .. in this case u urself are not accepting u in ur original form .. den how could u expect from others that they would love u..

Say lets take an example...
Once i saw a grl who was a second ranker of her class.. and the ranker of her class was her best frnd.. the grl once feeled that she also wants to come frst .. but on the other hand she dropped her idea of trying to come frst as .. she was feared that she will no longer be loved by her best frnd.. her best frnd who comes frst will reject her from her frndshp..

But i say .. this kind of love is NOT A LOVE BUT MERE A CONDITION and when conditions come in any relation the LOVE DIES from that relation....in such case the grl should do what she wants ..... get progressed and see the results .. M Sure as she goes on her choiced way means she is loving herself and thus she gets confidence and hence she'll get lots more new true Loving frnds..

One more thing i have seen in these days.. let me tell dat to u taking an example...
One Boy was there he saw a grl .. he fell in love with her.. he proposed her ... but she rejected..
He feels depressed now...+
But what ? Is that grl if for his happiness would have said yes, could ever be able to love him ..? No
So in dat case the boy should be happy dat the grl truely said no as she dnt lyk me . and yahan mai kahungi ki pyaar us se karo jo aap se pyaar kare us se nahi jise aap pyaar karo !!! kuki aapko bahot pyaar milne vala hai !!!

ek or example hai jo aaj kal common hai pyaar ko le ke --
A small child .. a kid is there he/she is attached to his'her parents.. but parents in todays lyf are so busy that they are even not able to give their tym to their kids.. but do expect from them that they would become doctor or would become an engineer ..
but later what happens the child becomes something else in their lives... coz they are not attached to their parents and not getting what they want from bottom of their heart !!! and dusri ore parents se bhi dur ho jate hain ... bachpan me parents un k saath nahi thi baad vo vo parents k saath nahi hote .. isme galti parenting ki hai baccho ki nahi ....
So @ Lats I would say KHUD KO KAR BULAND ITNA KI KHUDA BANDE SE PUCHE " BOL TERI RAZA KYA HAI " !!!
Love Urself First and Den Others!!